LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS PART 1: COMPATIBILITY ISSUES

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS PART 1: COMPATIBILITY ISSUES

 

It is a good feeling to have a partner to confide in, to rely on and to love. People fall in love for so many different reasons. To some, it could be the way the person talks, walks, smiles, or behaves him/herself. While to others, it could be because of what the person possesses: money, car, house, good job, the list is endless.

I am not going to talk about that because we are all different. Bingo! That is the keyword for my post: DIFFERENT.

I want to tackle the issue of compatibility in couples. As you can see, this is my blog and that simply means I have the right to express myself (with all due respect).

I have heard so many people say "I broke up with my partner simply because both of us are not compatible". Sure, I can't tell them otherwise. But the question I would love to ask them is "what does compatibility mean to you?"

Some will say "Compatibility is when two people love the same things, enjoy the same music, behave the same way, etc". In short what they try to say is that they look for a partner that is exactly like them!!!! Phew!!! I think they should also believe in some kind of reincarnation!

Let me go straight to the point. The fact is that we are all different. No one is like you, and you are not like anybody else. So looking for someone that is exactly like you is like looking for a tear drop in the ocean. To me compatibility simply means that two (2) people are able to complete each other. This is where the issue of temperament comes in. I call a person who is compatible with me someone that is able to do what I would love to do, but that I fail to do due to circumstances beyond my control.

If for example, I am a shy person and my shyness hinders me from achieving certain things that I would love to achieve, I would pray to God to give me a partner that is outspoken. Why? Because this person will help me get rid of my shyness and improve the way I relate to people. But if I fall on another person that is also shy simply because I feel we are the same, both of us will be blocked in the middle of nowhere. Maybe the saying “opposites attract” could fit in here.

Another incident will be that of a man that is very hot tempered. I would pray for him to get a partner that is completely his opposite: a very patient and tender hearted lady. This will help balance up the “temper”. But if this particular man stumbles on a “hot tempered” lady like him because they think that they have things in common, their house might be transformed into a boxing ring.

You need a person that is able to lift you up. The Bible says “2 is better than one, because when one falls, the other can lift them up”. I simply love this scripture. But I think it is not just any 2 people. Imagine a house where the husband and wife are both very impatient people. They can’t seem to hold their anger every time they don’t get what they want. If something happens that does not please them, who will be there to comfort the other? I believe they will both be running up and down scattering anything that comes along their way.  But if the impatient husband has a very patient wife, she will not only be able to comfort him but she might even help him calm his nerves down. Now that is what I call compatibility……………….To be continued